Why children find it difficult to talk about sexual abuse? child abuse is a crime and should have strong penalties

 

Why children find it difficult to talk about sexual abuse? child abuse is a crime and should have strong penalties.

Child sexual abuse is a collective name for all forms of sexual acts that a child is subjected to by another person. It includes both physical abuse and non-physical abuse.

Child abuse is one of the most heinous acts out there. Undoubtedly, victims experience negative consequences that can often change the direction of their lives.

Nelson Mandela said that "abuse of children remains in their bodies and in their souls forever". Child abuse is a heinous act. In addition, the trauma inflicted on the children can make it difficult for them to talk about these abuses.

Sexual abuse usually goes hand in hand with coercion. For example, the pedophile often uses disgusting methods, such as bribes or threats. This means that the child's mind is affected by the toxicity of the trauma, potentially robbing it of its innocence.

Child sexual abuse is such a devastating and traumatic experience that it can change the direction of a person's life.”

-Rosenna Bakari-

A lost childhood

There are different consequences of child abuse. That said, there are usually common patterns that help establish the facts. Anger or sadness is part of this common denominator. The children also prematurely abandon their childhood and thus their innocence and associated trust.

In addition, their self-esteem tends to suffer because they feel guilty and deeply ashamed. The abuse makes them ask themselves questions like: "Why didn't I stop it?", "Why me?"... They always arrive at the answer that they are weak, incapable or even bad people.

In addition, the repulsive emotional intensity of the experience often blocks the recall of the trauma from their memory. It is as if it were locked in their minds behind a door to which there are few keys. As a consequence of this denial, they have difficulty concentrating and their school performance deteriorates. They may even experience dissociative episodes and “disconnect” from the world because it does not provide them with the security they need.

In addition, various investigations have shown that both sexual abuse and its consequences can be inherited. For example, if children learn that it is "normal" to be abused (because it has become a way of life for them), they will probably develop an insecure attachment style. As a result, they often exhibit self-destructive behaviors.

The effects of child sexual abuse are not only limited to the victim, but also affect the family and society in general.”

Sexual abuse of children causes the victim to lose trust in adults.

Children find it difficult to talk about abuse because they have lost hope

The vulnerable child's trust in adults is like a vase that has been thrown violently against the wall. It's broken. It is worst when the perpetrator is a parent, sibling, friend or acquaintance.

If children cannot trust those closest to them, they grow up feeding the dangerous belief that they cannot trust anyone. Also, since they believe they can't trust anyone,

how can they talk to anyone about the abuse?

It is also common for the perpetrators to try to silence the children. To do this they use threats and lies as well as violence. By silencing children, they take away their ability to ask for help. In addition, they deprive children of the chance for a dignified future.

"Boys and girls who have been sexually abused find it very difficult to trust adults and tell them what happened."

-General Council of Spanish Psychology-

When the perpetrator belongs to the child's environment, the consequences of the crime worsen.

The lips are sealed, but the mind burns with pain

The fact that children cannot talk about the abuse they have suffered is anything but healthy. Either they are silent because they are ashamed or because they want to forget. Or because they are exceptionally confused or have normalized the abuse.

It may even be that they are silent because their language skills have been disrupted as another symptom or consequence of the trauma. In fact, many fears, anxieties and worries lie behind this type of mutism. For example:

They may be terrified of the abuser's reaction if they were to tell anyone. It may be because the perpetrator has threatened them. For example, the perpetrator may have threatened to kill their brother if they said anything.

They think that the people around them will accuse them of lying. This belief, combined with intense guilt and shame, is a powerful element that prevents them from telling anyone about the trauma.

They are afraid that if they tell those close to them, those people will stop loving them. In fact, these types of feelings are common after child abuse. Unsurprisingly, this belief can take stronger hold in children.

They don't think anything will happen if they tell. Although they may have the courage to talk about the abuse, they dismiss the idea of ​​doing so because they feel it will be pointless.

They may think that the fact that they are being abused means that someone will notice and "save" them. But when rescue does not come, they feel even greater hopelessness. These feelings depend on the severity of the trauma.

today met a woman she told very sick things about her life during childhood I could not hear was very difficult to listen to should write in the second part.

The scars that occur make clear the need to talk about abuse

As you can see, child abuse leaves lifelong scars on those affected. This can be on a psychological as well as a physiological level. In the case of sexual abuse, for example, there are many cases of sexually transmitted diseases, such as HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. For this reason, it is important to pay attention to strange behaviors or infections in minors, so that we have a chance to save them from the horrors of abuse.

When the ignorance of childhood oppression is one day eliminated and humanity has awakened, we can discern the end of this production of evil.”

What is the nature of a person who has been sexually assaulted during the Bandom era?¨

1. It lacks human behavior and lacks reason, logic and dialogue.

2 A person who was raped in childhood tries to destroy the character of others in order to empty his inner pain.

3. A person who was raped as a child lies easily and without a single bit of remorse.

4. People who were sexually abused as children have a weak ego. What they are doing is trying to escape the conversation.

Many feel sad, ashamed and take the blame for what has happened. One can also feel anger and rage or resignation and powerlessness. Having been exposed to violence and having lived under severe stress can lead to so-called post-traumatic stress disorder,

How can we recognize people who were sexually abused as children? 1 These people always approach others with fear. 2 have unhealthy illusions. 3 They are afraid of everything and are skeptical 4 They are always suspicious of every word and greeting 5. They have a terrible fear when they get close to someone.

Why is it difficult for the child to tell about his sexual abuse?

It can take several months, sometimes several years, before a child gathers the courage to tell. Children can feel shame and guilt about what happened, and worry and fear about what will happen if they tell. The perpetrator is often someone the child likes and trusts, which makes it difficult to understand and tell about the abuse.

The vast majority of sexual assaults do not cause any physical damage, but in some they leave a psychological mark for a long time to come. For example, close physical contact can bring back memories of the abuse and some may experience internal barriers and fear sex.

How do you know if your child has been sexually abused?

Sudden change in behavior, such as acting out, aggressiveness, outbursts or difficulty concentrating even though the child has not shown it before. Anxiety, recurring nightmares, stomach ache, or difficulty urinating. Takes clothes off other children against their will.

How can you identify a person who was sexually abused during their childhood?

How do you know if your child has been sexually abused?

Sudden change in behavior, such as acting out, aggressiveness, outbursts or difficulty concentrating even though the child has not shown it before. Anxiety, recurring nightmares, stomach ache, or difficulty urinating. Takes clothes off other children against their will.

The vast majority of sexual assaults do not cause any physical damage, but in some they leave a psychological mark for a long time to come. For example, close physical contact can bring back memories of the abuse and some may experience internal barriers and fear sex.

How can outsiders notice that a child is vulnerable?

It is not always visible from the outside who is the victim of abuse. Children can be sad, angry and scared but hide it from those around them. They may be doing everything they can to keep themselves from getting worse. But it can be noticed that children are not feeling well, or that their relationship with the person who exposes them is not good.

How do you know if a child has been sexually abused?

Sudden change in behavior, such as acting out, aggressiveness, outbursts or difficulty concentrating even though the child has not shown it before. Anxiety, recurring nightmares, stomach ache, or difficulty urinating. Takes clothes off other children against their will.

How do you help someone who has been sexually abused?

You can advise on support and help

But someone who has been the victim of a sexual crime often needs more help. These are the places you can advise: An emergency department if the person has recently been the victim of a sexual crime. A youth reception, here the victim can be examined and receive conversational support.

How can outsiders notice that a child is vulnerable?

It is not always visible from the outside who is the victim of abuse. Children can be sad, angry and scared but hide it from those around them. They may be doing everything they can to keep themselves from getting worse. But it can be noticed that children are not feeling well, or that their relationship with the person who exposes them is not good.

How do you help someone who has been sexually abused?

You can advise on support and help

But someone who has been the victim of a sexual crime often needs more help. These are the places you can advise: An emergency department if the person has recently been the victim of a sexual crime. A youth reception, here the victim can be examined and receive conversational support.

1 person is weak and may no longer do what he, she did before.

2 the person has weak self-confidence.

3 the person sometimes up and down one day happy doing a lot of things another day the person very tired and not doing what the person did the day before.

4 A person who has been raped as a child has an unhealthy delusion, the person has great unhealthy imaginations.

5 suspicious person sometimes lacks the human principle

How do you know that a child has been sexually abused?

Sudden change in behavior, such as acting out, aggressiveness, outbursts or difficulty concentrating even though the child has not shown it before. Anxiety, recurring nightmares, stomach ache, or difficulty urinating. Takes clothes off other children against their will.

Examples of sexual abuse are exposing children to consummated intercourse, an adult touching the child's genitals, the child touching the adult's genitals, sexual invitations from an adult or exposure to the child. Most abuse is committed by someone the child knows, such as a parent, relative, acquaintance or friend.

What consequences does the abuse lead to for the child?

WHAT WILL BE THE CONSEQUENCES? Children and young people who have been exposed to sexual violence fare much worse compared to children who have not been exposed. Among these children, PTSD, depression, anxiety, sleep difficulties, self-injurious behaviors and suicide attempts are not uncommon.

How to support a child who has experienced abuse?

Providing structure, routine and reassurance can help them re-establish a sense of security. Let them know that you love them, you are there for them and you can find the right support together if they need it. If a traumatic experience, such as bullying or abuse, is still ongoing, it needs to be addressed so that it stops.

How do you help someone who has been sexually abused?

You can advise on support and help

But someone who has been the victim of a sexual crime often needs more help. These are the places you can advise: An emergency department if the person has recently been the victim of a sexual crime. A youth reception, here the victim can be examined and receive conversational support.

How are children affected by being hit?

Regardless of whether a child is abused physically, psychologically, neglected or abused, it often causes serious emotional and psychological damage. Self-image, self-esteem, intellectual development, social competence and conditions for close relationships - everything is affected.

What does sexual exploitation mean?

Being forced or blackmailed into showing your own body or doing sexual things to yourself is also sexual abuse. This can happen both online and in real life. It could also be that someone photographs, films or sneaks a peek at children and young people showering or changing clothes.

How do you make a child feel safe after trauma?

Make your child feel safe. Hold, hug and cuddle your baby as much as possible. Tell them you will take care of them when they feel sad or scared. With children learning to talk, use simple phrases such as "Mommy is here."

if you want to know what is happening about a child at school or in the community, you should establish a good relationship with your child so that the children can feel safe when they will tell their parents about the events.

so that the children are trusted by their parents to be able to say everything.

First part,, second part coming soon

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Samuel the second part is coming soon

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