We
humans should practice as humanity to forgive each other as I did in the past
while the person behaved unbecomingly and acted rashly.
forgiveness
regains a friendship again, so you let go of having debts on your conscience
when you forgive someone or someone forgives him, her.
Forgiveness is
always the best way and not every human being can do it. Humans who try to
forgive even those who have wronged them and forgiveness requires a lot of
heart and mental strength.
Because
we are human, forgiving and forgetting the past and moving past it to learn new
things requires a healthy mind and extraordinary mental abilities.
Forgiving
is not a bad thing and forgiving frees your mind and your energies so that you
do not have the torment of conscience or at least heal the heart of the person
you have broken and make their heart happy.
People
who are willing to forgive have human reason and logic. Their inner consciousness
is healthier than those who seek revenge.
Resentment
arises from a sick mind and mentality, therefore there is a cure for it.
Therapy
is radical and individual and dialogue is used to free the individual from the
pain of past suffering.
Because
all bad behavior goes back to the past of the person and it is these past
events that the person sees as the only solution for revenge, but it is a big
mistake if a person has such a stupid thought.
We
are human and we should respect each other and have empathy.
I
like you as people, and I want to say I'm always good at being forgiven, we're
people, we can forgive each other..
Eight
Ways to Ask for Forgiveness
Ask
for forgiveness or an apology. ...
Talk
about what you did wrong. ...
Tell
them that you feel bad about what you did. ...
Make
it clear that you regret it. ...
Ask
them to explain their actions. ...
Listen
and try to understand how the other person felt. ...
Explain
that you will not repeat your mistake.
Being
able to ask for forgiveness or an apology when you have made a mistake or
mistake that has hurt another person is an important part of the social game in
our culture, where our main motivation is to belong to a herd. It takes courage
and determination to ask for forgiveness, but it is often necessary for you to
be forgiven, and for you to be able to forgive yourself.
Eight
ways to ask for forgiveness
Apologizing
or asking for forgiveness is a sensitive thing that needs to be done in an
empathetic, humble and genuine way. Think carefully about how you can do it if
it is relevant to you.
Plan the time, place and what you will say.
Every situation is unique. Find your own way of expressing yourself, which you
feel is appropriate for yourself and the situation, and which you think may
suit the person you want to ask for forgiveness.
It is a good idea to brainstorm your thoughts
with a friend beforehand. Have your friend role-play the person you are going
to ask for forgiveness, test what you are going to say on your friend, and ask
for feedback.
Step
Content Examples of what you can say
1.
Ask for forgiveness or an apology. Sorry, excuse me.
2.
Tell them that you did something wrong. I did something wrong. It was wrong of
me to …
3.
Tell them that you feel bad about what you did. I’m so sorry. I feel bad about
…
4.
Make it clear that you regret it. I really regret it.
5.
Ask to explain your actions. Can I tell you how I was thinking when I did that?
6.
Listen and try to understand how the other person felt. How did it feel for
you? I want to hear.
7.
Explain that you will not repeat your mistake. I will never do that again.
8.
Find a way to make amends to the person, if possible and appropriate. How can I
make amends? I want to make things right between us. What can I do for you?
A
nice way to ask for forgiveness is to write a letter. The advantage is that you
can work on the letter for several days and weigh your words. Remember that a
letter of forgiveness should not contain any accusations. Do not send it until
you are sure that the letter really expresses what you wanted to say. You can
also ask to meet the person and read the letter.
If
the person you want to ask for forgiveness is unavailable, or if it is
otherwise inappropriate to contact them, you can still write a letter and read
it to a friend. You can also read it in front of a photograph or an empty chair
where you imagine the person sitting. If the person is dead, you can read the
letter at the grave. After that, you might bury the letter in the ground and
say “goodbye”. It may sound banal, but the fact is that it usually has an
effect.
Here
is an example of a letter of forgiveness that a woman wrote to her daughter,
who had broken off contact. The response was positive. The daughter got in
touch and they met and talked
Dear
fff
I
want to bring up something with you that I have been thinking about for a long
time and that I think you have also thought about.
I
know that I did not give you what you needed during your childhood and for that
I want to ask you for forgiveness from the bottom of my heart.
If I had to do our lives over, I would have
seen you more, given you more care, talked to you more and asked you more about
how you were doing.
I would have listened more to your thoughts
and worries and been more sensitive to your needs. I would have given you more
time and attention, comforted you more when you were sad, made crafts and
played with you, read to you more and helped you more with your homework.
I
made the wrong priorities. I was too busy with my own. I didn't understand it
then but I understand it now. I loved you and was so happy that you came to us.
The day you were born is the happiest day of my life.
My intention was not to hurt you but I wanted
to give you everything good, every day.
Sorry,
f.
You
are such a beautiful person and I am so proud of you. I will love you for all
eternity no matter what happens. My love is unconditional.
If
you would like to write me an answer, I would be very happy. I take this very
seriously, but I have not known how to bring it up with you. I would love to
hear how you experienced it.
Maybe
we could meet and talk? If so, I will listen and you can tell me and ask your
questions. I promise to listen wholeheartedly and answer honestly, if I get the
chance.
If
you do not give me an answer, I understand that you are doing what you need to
do and I love you just as much.
How
to Apologize to Your Partner.
If
you're in a relationship, there is pretty much a guarantee that you will need
to apologize at some point. While the whole idea of apologizing can be
terrifying, it is essential for rebuilding broken trust and improving a
strained relationship.
Not
sure how to say sorry? We've simplified the process for you! Read on to see how
to apologize in just four easy steps. And, as a bonus, learn how to receive an
apology in just four easy steps!
How
to Apologize
Step
1: Acknowledge your partner's hurt/anger
Example:
I recognize that you feel upset...
Step
2: Apologize for what you said or did
Example:
...and I am so sorry that I am late for dinner.
Step
3: Briefly explain your own motives and perspective
Example:
I thought I could still beat the traffic rush leaving later from work, but I
was wrong.
Step
4: Apologize again
Example:
Again, I am so sorry.
Final
Example: "I recognize that you feel upset and I am so sorry that I am late
for dinner. I thought I could still beat the traffic rush leaving later from
work, but I was wrong. Again, I am so sorry."
How
to Recieve an Apology
Understanding
how to apologize is crucial, but knowing how to receive an apology is just as
important for maintaining healthy relationships. We've outlined a simple yet
effective guideline to help you navigate the process of accepting apologies.
Step
1: Listen
When
someone offers an apology, the first step is to truly listen. Allow the person
to express their regret without interrupting. This shows respect and opens the
door for genuine communication.
Step
2: Receive
Receive
the apology with an open heart. Acknowledge the effort it took for the person
to apologize and be receptive to their words, even if the hurt is still fresh.
Step
3: Believe
Choose
to believe in the sincerity of the apology. Trust that the person is genuinely
remorseful. This step is vital because believing in the apology lays the
foundation for healing.
Step
4: Accept
Accept
the apology fully. Acceptance doesn’t mean that the pain instantly disappears,
but it does mean you’re willing to move forward. Acceptance is a key step
toward forgiveness.
Once
you’ve accepted the apology, the next crucial step is forgiveness. Forgiveness
can be a process that takes time, but it is essential for rebuilding trust.
Remember: Apologies open the door, but forgiveness and trust are what
ultimately heal and strengthen the relationship. Individuals may forgive, but
it’s together that couples rebuild trust.
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