9 signs that your colleague suffers from a personality disorder
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Such a person can poison the atmosphere of the team with his presence alone. Demotivate colleagues or subordinates, make them feel worthless. If desired, he can appear quite charming and adequate, hiding his personality disorder. And most importantly – it is almost impossible to recognize this when taking such an employee to work.
List of most important psychopathic traits
Charm and eloquence.
Grandio's self-image.
Manipulative and deceptive.
Lack of empathy.
Lacks guilt and remorse.
Since the company appeared a new employee, Anna, tension was in the air. Even the cleaners tried to avoid meeting the new thing. Its presence itself created unnecessary stress. As soon as she entered living-together-is-the-reason-for-divorce/ in the room, everyone immediately froze, as if expecting her to say something unpleasant again.
Anna made remarks due to her aggression and unconsciousness, but nothing changed. On the contrary, scandals became more frequent because she took revenge on everyone who, it seemed to her, spoke ill of her. Various rumors crawled around the office, fertile ground for hypocrisy and mutual accusations arose. Everyone saw the problem except the Anna manager. Unfortunately, because of this, all attempts to change something gave only a short-term result.
When several complaints were received in the personnel department, Maria, an employee who hired Anna to work, decided to study her personal file for more information. She did not learn anything unusual about Anna. She had a good resume, proven recommendations, reviews about her work were positive, she passed all the necessary checks. Anna had some problems with communication skills, but nothing serious. So what's the deal?
Perhaps in the fact that Anna suffered from personality disorder, and this is almost never revealed during interviews about hiring
There are many types of personality disorders: paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, antisocial, borderline, hysterical, avoidant, dependent, obsessive compulsive. In each of them, selfishness, lack of flexibility, distortion in the perception of reality and impulsiveness are manifested in their own way. All these symptoms occur in different situations starting from adolescence.
Signs that you can understand that your colleague suffers from such a disorder
1. It seems to you that you are crazy
It sometimes seemed to other employees when they communicated with Anna that they were going crazy. Often they could not understand and explain what was happening. Often Anna managed to convince her colleagues that the problem was precisely in them, she listed many of her shortcomings, mistakes and her fears. After such conversations, these employees began to worry, lost motivation and could even become depressed.
2. They act like Dr. Jackill, then as Mr. Hyde
Anna behaved with colleagues completely differently than with leadership and friends. Although personality disorders manifest in any setting, these manifestations can vary. When Anna wanted to impress someone, she could be very charming, but over time she lost a mask and showed her true face.
3. Around them you have to "go on your toes"
Not all employees tried to provoke Anna. They learned to read her body language well to understand what mood she is in today. When she was not at work, everyone was happy, as the atmosphere in the office immediately became easier and more relaxed.
4. They resist the changes
Anna eagerly said that something should change, considering that others should change for. She didn't want her colleagues to have healthy personal boundaries, and you constantly tried to subjugate and suppress others to control them.
5. Have unrealistic perceptions of their own rights. Because a narcissist believes that everything revolves around his own self, he sets up his own rules of the game, which he also expects others to play by without question.
6. Is adept at achieving his own goals at the expense of others. If you have a manager or colleague who is a narcissist, you can assume that your or your colleagues' work situation will be negatively affected in one way or another. For example, a narcissist likes to take credit for other people's successes.
7. Lacks empathy and thus has no ability whatsoever to empathize with other people's feelings. This is one of the strongest personality traits of a narcissist and often leads to broken relationships and general destruction.
8. Believes that others are jealous of him, but is often jealous of others himself, which leads to social conflicts where the narcissist's only goal is to destroy those he is jealous of.
9. Employs haughty and arrogant attitudes and behaviors that can be unbearable to experience.
Samuel Qu
samuelkubkub@gmail.com
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